I spent 3 whole days with my Minute Man. I gave T the weekend "off" (He had some social events, plus he teaches yoga, and he was also squeezing in some work this weekend as well) and took care of M for 3 days straight...pretty much by my self. The first day was actually the hardest (the day I blogged - Friday) as I hadn't done anything like that EVER! It really is a very difficult adjustment - as Kendra so eloquently put it! It's not like I get to start with a tiny baby and "work up" to a toddler... my little guy is fully mobile, needy, and doesn't watch TV, so I spend my entire time with him really BEING WITH him. Mostly we play together, or I just carry him around the house pointing out the animals, or "stuff" around the house to help him learn the names of things. I do love it, but it IS hard. And frankly, I get tired of reading about/hearing about how everything is always warm and fuzzy and perfect. I only read about 3 blogs these days, and what I LOVE LOVE LOVE about these blogs is that the ladies (all 3 SAHMs) are honest about how they feel. They love their children more than anything in their life. They also talk about days where they can't get out of their pjs 'cause their child is sick or just having a bad day and it takes ALL their energy to deal with the baby, which means there's nothing left over for them... We all KNOW it's going to be hard. Of course we are up for the challenge, but it doesn't make it EASIER just KNOWING it'll BE hard! And, it's GOOD to hear the truth, folks. It shows you you aren't alone. A-parents have enough mountains to climb that they don't need to be attacked or second-guessed by other people who don't know a damn thing about their situation or their family (can you believe there are actually people out there OPPOSED to adoption!!? Not only that, but they feel the need to SHARE that with you!! How many people do you think walk up to a pregnant lady and say "hey, I'm opposed to your being
pregnant. You shouldn't do it"? People ACTUALLY say these things to a-parents... oh well. It takes all kinds. Even stupid people are still people, I guess) but, I digress. After the first day, it actually got easier (which now that I think about it, makes sense. But at the time, I thought it would get harder). And by Sunday, which I thought would be the hardest day, I was figuring it all out...mostly. And I was feeling very good about how we were doing (I even went out and did some grocery shopping successfully!!) Furthermore, Sunday seemed to be Minute's hardest day. He was very clingy, and WOULD NOT nap. It kind of felt nice being needed, even if I didn't get much done on the house! ;-> I did manage a quick shower when friends next-door offered to walk the baby (in his stroller) around the neighborhood. Aside from Mom crying as Miss K walked my child away from me (conversely, Minh did great), I did as much as I could in the next 30 minutes - INCLUDING shaving my legs. You moms out there know what I mean when I say how excited I was to have time to shave my legs!!
Today I went back to work. I love work, and am (really really) glad to be back. However, I am already looking forward to tonight when I get to hang out with my little man!
Oh, and I'll post more pictures later today or tomorrow. I have been taking them, honest!!!